Females that wish to produce heirs seek out traits from a variety of lovers. Diversity in lovers is prized, and care is usually taken to offset traits between lovers to ensure the child is balanced and well-rounded. A child's temperament is further improved by the sharing of weaning between lactating females during the first two years of life.
Upon birth, the mother asks a close masculine relative or associate that she believes will be a suitable guardian for her child, and if the person agrees they join in the Bond of Kinship and act as a guardian, carer, and mentor to the child until the child first comes of age.
While all children are bonded to their birth mother, they are seen as a child of the clan as a whole. Depending on the woman who gave birth to the child she may take a very active or passive role in that child’s upbringing. Children reside either with the Mother or Guardian and those they are union bonded to (or together if the Mother and Guardian happen to share a union bond). If she has several children, it is not uncommon for them to have different bonded Guardians. This often results in different biological siblings having little to do with each other, except belonging to the same clan and sharing a Kinship Bond.
All children are naturally bonded to their birth-mother. They take a matronymic at their coming of age ceremony when their gender is affirmed.
Elsa Frejasdotter has a son (Arne) and a daughter (Astrid).
Her children's surnames at birth would be Arne Elsasson (= Arne, son of Elsa) and Astrid Elsasdotter (= Astrid, daughter of Elsa).
One week after the birth of the child the clan holds a Kinship ceremony. The ceremony is lead by a Godi chosen by the mother, who becomes that child’s personal Godi for their childhood leading up to the first coming of age ceremony.
The kinship ceremony involves:
- Bonding the child to the Mother.
- Bonding the child to the Guardian. The Guardian is a masculine or omnispirit Skylding chosen by the mother to be the role model to the child. They are rarely the child’s biological father (as this is impossible to identify). Generally, the Guardian role is given to the mother’s Guardian, a sibling, or a friend. The person must be willing to take responsibility for the child.
- Bonding to siblings - these are both other children bonded to the Mother and Guardian. If a sibling is absent a special ceremony is held at a later date.
- The child receives its first tattoo of Frigg’s eye.
- Naming: their first name.
All children must have a Mother and Guardian bonded to them during this first ceremony.